Getting married and moving in together is an exciting time in your life, full of love, romance and enchantment. However, there are some practical concerns to consider whenever sharing a living space with someone new, even if you've been dating for a while. If you don't communicate and manage your expectations effectively, the reality of your new living situation can shroud your euphoria in sorrow.
For the smoothest transition from single life to cohabitation, here are six tasks to add to your checklist when moving into your first home as newlyweds.
There are many lifestyle topics couples should discuss before marriage, from finances to children. In regard to moving in together, it's important to ask each other the following questions:
Failing to communicate your needs and trusting your new spouse to handle the accommodations can lead to functional challenges in your lifestyle as well as resentment in your relationship.
The last thing you want to do the week before your wedding is move into your new place. You should be focused on the perfect wedding favors for your guests and packing for your honeymoon, not boxing, loading and moving heavy furniture into your new place. Also, to save some cash for your new life together, make sure to think about the financial consequences of breaking your current lease before it expires. Whether you move in together before or after your nuptials, make a plan that works for both of you and sets you up for success in this new chapter of your life.
If you and your fiance each have established dwellings ahead of your marriage, then you have to consolidate your belongings. Unless you have room in your new home for everything, you'll need to decide what to keep, sell, donate or trash. However, don't think of this process as a competition. Your spouse may have better dishware than you, but you may discover that neither bed is comfortable for both of you. In that case, you don't have to choose. You can sell both bedroom sets and start over with a fresh new design. Use these mattress shopping tips to help you find the perfect fit for both of you.
Unless you have deep pockets and ample time, the process of setting up your new home may take a while. It's okay if your style isn't Instagram-worthy on day one. As you and your new spouse get to know each other's lifestyle preferences, you'll steadily build a comfortable and cohesive habitat that incorporates features from each of your personalities. So if you have to snuggle on your beloved's old, handed-down sofa for a few months while you save and search for the perfect sectional, that's okay.
Moving in with someone else is a huge adjustment, even when you're over the moon in love with one another. Having your own space to retreat to for some alone time can be an essential tool for self-care, especially during the historically tough first year of marriage. Whether it's a cozy book nook, gaming room or woodworking shop, give yourself room to foster your creativity and lean into your interests.
Planning and executing your move is a huge endeavor, and your to-do list may seem overwhelming right now. When you feel anxious or afraid, take a moment to reflect on the reason you're making all these big decisions. If you start to struggle with decision-making, don't hesitate to take a break. Leave that pile of boxes in the corner and go to dinner with your spouse.
Combining this checklist with the communication techniques that work in your relationship, you'll have the tools you need for a successful move and a happy marriage.
Publish Date: November 17, 2021 1:13 PM